- Adults often intervene without being requested by the children
- Crises tend to last longer when an adult intervenes
- Many crises can be resolved without adult assistance
Adults tend to:
- Take sides to help the victim and blame the ‘wrong doer’
- Impose their own solutions
- ‘victimise’ chidren
- Take on revenge after unfair intervention
- Take on negative labelling
- Manipulate teachers by playing the victim
- Does it stop conflict reoccuring?
- Does it finish the behaviour?
Why do adults intervene?
- Worry about being judged by other adults
- Afraid of chidren being harmed
- Belief that conflict between children is wrong
Conflict between children can teach
- How to learn conflict resolution strategies
- How to defend themselves. This is very important to learn in the safe environment of home or the centre as there will be plenty of situations where children will be involved without adults immediately present )e.g. large playground at school)
- Teach skills at another time
- Tole model how to use and accept emotions
- Set up an environment that does not stress
- Pay attention to the required behaviour (behaviour that you want to see)
- Give lots of emotional support